Increase your self-esteem by understanding how unhealthy shame is developed (1 minute read)

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Increase your self-esteem by understanding how unhealthy shame is developed:

This post continues on the last posts’ different aspects of shame and how to be free from too much and harsh shame.

If harmful shame is a common feeling in your life, you can try the 5 steps from Compassion Focused Therapy, CFT, created by the psychologist Paul Gilbert.

Step 1 – Discover human nature by reflecting on:

-Shame is a natural part of being human

-We need shame to help us adapt to our living situations

-There are reasons for you having developed problems with shame

-Problematic shame is often developed already at a young age

-The exaggerated shame was likely a way of trying to adapt to your life circumstances at that time, such as having harsh, cold parents or being bullied

-Suffering and uncomfortable feelings are parts of life that we cannot escape from but learn how to manage

-shame is a primary feeling that has to be moderated to be helpful

More about shame and what to do about it in upcoming posts.

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