Better self-esteem: Effective change comes from within (1 minute read)
This post Better self-esteem: Effective change comes from within continues with how to improve your self-esteem by making changes in your life.
Last posts have been about how to improve the chances of reaching your goals.
Better self-esteem: Effective change comes from within
Often when a person comes to therapy it is someone else who thinks that the person needs to change: the employer, spouse or the referring doctor.
That is not going to be enough to make lasting changes, since effective personal change has to come from within.
There must be a personal realization and insight about why it is necessary to change, since all change creates some kind of discomfort making it easier not to change but to stay the same.
As mentioned in earlier posts, this is the case since our behaviors are deeply engrained for good reasons: they have often been beneficial for us – we gain something with them.
Also, it is energy preserving to keep doing what has been somewhat working in the past.
In his classical book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey introduced the skill-will matrix that has been helpful, both for individual change and in leadership development programs.
More in the next post about how this can be relevant for you.
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