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Increase your self-esteem by understanding the dangers with compensation (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Thu, 15 Oct 2020 18:55:34 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by understanding the dangers with compensation (1 minute read)

This post“Increase your self-esteem by understanding the dangers with compensation” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by managing your thoughts and feelings.

There are several mature defense mechanisms that are helpful strategies for:

– Managing unwanted impulses and anxiety

– Resolving underlying issues or problems

– Getting a more peaceful mind and relationships

Increase your self-esteem by understanding the dangers with compensation:

This post continues with the defense mechanism compensation.

Compensation is when balancing a perceived weakness by emphasizing strengths in other areas.

Compensation can be less helpful and effective when done in an unconscious and exaggerated way.

Not noticing own hidden feelings of inadequacy can lead to excesses in other areas of life. For example, extensive bragging or efforts to help others can be used to hide own insecurities and low self-esteem.

There are two other related dimensions:

Overcompensation is when the compensatory strife becomes disproportionately strong.

Undercompensation is when becoming overly dependent on others, almost giving up or avoiding developing a specific area.

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Increase your self-esteem by understanding the dangers with compensation

Increase your self-esteem by deliberate compensation (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Wed, 14 Oct 2020 19:44:55 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by deliberate compensation (1 minute read)

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Increase your self-esteem by deliberate compensation:

There are several more mature defense mechanisms than the ones suggested by the psychiatrist Vaillant and which have been the topic of the last posts.

One of them is compensation. Compensation is when balancing a perceived weakness by emphasizing strengths in other areas.

This helps us recognize that it is impossible to be strong in all areas, and that practice is necessary to excel in an area.

This can occur consciously:

IA person who cannot cook may focus on setting the table with great effort or claiming the importance of doing the dishes.

IIOr when compensating insecurities talking in front of an audience by excelling in written communication, hence drawing attention to an area of strength.

When done in an appropriate way, this can help us reinforce our self-esteem and self-image.

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Increase your self-esteem by deliberate compensation

Increase your self-esteem by being more assertive (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Wed, 14 Oct 2020 04:24:06 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by being more assertive (1 minute read)

Here the post “Increase your self-esteem by being more assertive” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by managing your thoughts and feelings.

Increase your self-esteem by being more assertive:

This post continues with the mature defense mechanism assertiveness.

As mentioned in the last post, assertiveness is expressing one’s needs, feelings and thoughts in a respectful, direct and firm way.

Assertiveness falls in between on a continuum of communication that can range from passive to aggressive.

Passive communication signals good listening but is less commonly used for expressing own needs and desires.

Aggressive communication is associated with leadership and less with empathetically listening to the ideas and needs of others.

Assertiveness can be beneficial when used as a deliberate communication strategy. It can be a balance in between passive and aggressive communication when speaking up for oneself, respectfully sharíng opinions or needs as well as being able to listen.

Hence, when used deliberately it can be an effective communication skill.

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Increase your self-esteem by being more assertive

Another effective strategy for managing difficult feelings and situations (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Mon, 12 Oct 2020 20:11:41 +0000

Another effective strategy for managing difficult feelings and situations (1 minute read)

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Another effective strategy for managing difficult feelings and situations:

There are several more mature defense mechanisms than the ones suggested by the psychiatrist Vaillant and which have been the topic of the last posts.

The mature defense mechanisms have several benefits:

-Are constructive and helpful ways to handle unwanted impulses and related anxiety

-Can resolve underlying issues or problems

-Can lead to a more peaceful mind and relationships

This post is about the mature defense mechanism assertiveness.

Assertiveness is expressing one’s needs or thoughts in a respectful, direct and firm way.

Assertiveness is a defense mechanism when it is used unconsciously, i.e. not knowing that one comes across as assertive and when used to cover for unwanted anxiety and fear.

More about the important defense mechanism assertiveness in the next post.

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Another effective strategy for managing difficult feelings and situations

Increase your self-esteem by using these 5 strategies for managing challenging situations and feelings (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 20:09:13 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by using these 5 strategies for managing challenging situations and feelings (1 minute read)

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Increase your self-esteem by using these 5 strategies for managing challenging situations and feelings:

This post summarizes the 5 mature defense mechanisms according to the psychiatrist Vaillant. Using them to manage difficult situations, thoughts and feelings helps us adapt while being aware.

Anticipation is managing a stressful event by mentally identifying scenarios while remembering that the discomfort will pass, earlier experiences of having survived similar situations and knowing that the pain will be manageable.

Altruism is when our behaviors and actions are aimed to benefit someone else rather than ourselves.

Humor is pointing out the funny or ironic aspects while not taking ourselves too seriously. This helps us take in, accept, endure and adapt to a distressing situation.

Sublimation turns unacceptable impulses, thoughts and emotions into more acceptable thoughts and activities. Sublimation is often used in humor and fantasy.

Suppression involves pushing challenging feelings and thoughts into the unconscious which prevent us from becoming aware of them. Suppression is a conscious choice not to think or act.

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Increase your self-esteem by using these 5 strategies for managing challenging situations and feelings

Increase your self-esteem by using these two mature strategies for managing tough situations (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 20:23:00 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by using these two mature strategies for managing tough situations (1 minute read)

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Increase your self-esteem by using these two mature strategies for managing tough situations:

The psychiatrist Vaillant divided the defense mechanisms into 4 levels of maturity mirroring increasingly constructive ways of dealing with difficult situations, thoughts and feelings.

This post is about the last 2 of 5 mature and empathic defense mechanisms in level IV. Using them creates balance and therefore helps us adapt to conflicting motives. They usually maximize gratification and allow us to be aware of feelings, thoughts and consequences.

Sublimation channels unacceptable impulses, thoughts and emotions into more acceptable thoughts and activities. Sublimation is often used in humor and fantasy.

Suppression involve pushing challenging feelings and thoughts into the unconscious which prevent us from becoming aware of them. Suppression is a conscious process, a conscious choice not to think about something or act on something.

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Increase your self-esteem by using these two mature strategies for managing tough situations

Increase your self-esteem by using these mature strategies for managing tough situations (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Wed, 07 Oct 2020 20:26:33 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by using these mature strategies for managing tough situations (1 minute read)

Here the post “Increase your self-esteem by using these mature strategies for managing tough situations” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by managing your thoughts and feelings.

Increase your self-esteem by using these mature strategies for managing tough situations:

The psychiatrist Vaillant divided the defense mechanisms into 4 levels of maturity mirroring increasingly constructive ways of dealing with difficult situations, thoughts and feelings.

This post is about 3 of 5 mature and empathic defense mechanisms in level IV. Using them creates balance and therefore helps us adapt to conflicting motives. They usually maximize gratification and allow us to be aware of feelings, thoughts and consequences.

Anticipation is managing a potentially stressful event by mentally prepare and plan for scenarios. Anticipation includes reminding ourselves that the discomfort will soon pass, that we have survived similar situations and that future pain will be manageable.

Altruism is when our behaviors and actions are aimed to benefit someone else rather than ourselves. Research has shown that this principle often makes the person more healthy, grateful and wise. But it can also backfire.

Humor is pointing out the funny or ironic aspects. Humor is also about not taking ourselves too seriously. This helps us take in, accept, endure and adapt to a distressing situation.

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Increase your self-esteem by using these mature strategies for managing tough situations

Increase your self-esteem by these 6 somewhat mature ways for managing difficult thoughts and feelings (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 19:51:56 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by these 6 somewhat mature ways for managing difficult thoughts and feelings (1 minute read)

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Increase your self-esteem by these 6 somewhat mature ways for managing difficult thoughts and feelings:

The psychiatrist Vaillant divided the defense mechanisms into 4 levels of maturity mirroring increasingly constructive ways of dealing with difficult thoughts and feelings.

This post summarizes Level III, the intermediate, neurotic defense mechanisms common in anxiety problems. They cause the user more discomfort than the observer. Some do not involve effective problem solving. Some of them are more adaptive:

Repression is pushing difficult thoughts into the unconscious thereby hiding them from us. They can return through symptoms and actions that we are unaware of but others notice.

Displacement is redirecting thoughts, feelings and impulses aimed at one person on another person.

Reaction formation is adaptively converting unwanted thoughts, feelings or impulses into their opposites.

Intellectualization is adaptively avoiding uncomfortable emotions by focusing on facts and logic. This neutralizes anxiety, but the emotional responses might have to be resolved to be able to move on.

The two defense mechanisms isolation – separating ideas and thoughts and undoing – doing the opposite are connected to intellectualization.

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Increase your self-esteem by these 6 somewhat mature ways for managing difficult thoughts and feelings

Increase your self-esteem by understanding more strategies to manage difficult thoughts (1 minute read)

Jenny Rapp — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 04:57:49 +0000

Increase your self-esteem by understanding more strategies to manage difficult thoughts (1 minute read)

Here the post “Increase your self-esteem by understanding more strategies to manage difficult thoughts” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by managing your thoughts and feelings.

Increase your self-esteem by understanding more strategies to manage difficult thoughts:

The psychiatrist Vaillant divided the defense mechanisms into 4 levels. The levels mirror different levels of maturity and hence are increasingly constructive ways of dealing with difficult thoughts and feelings.

This post continues with Level III which contains intermediate, neurotic defenses common in anxiety problems. They cause the user more discomfort than the observer. Some of them can still be maladaptive since they do not involve effective problem solving.

The two defense mechanisms isolation and undoing are connected to intellectualization.

The defense mechanism undoing is attempting to cancel out, remove or take back an unconscious behavior or thought and thereby to avoid awareness of a thought or action that seems unacceptable, unhealthy, destructive or otherwise threatening. This is done by engaging in contrary thinking and behavior that have the opposite meaning of the distressing impulses.

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